Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Introduction to the Second Editionp. 1
Our Lives Since the First EMOp. 3
Introduction to the First Edition (Updated for the Second Edition)p. 6
How to Use This Bookp. 9
How the Book Is Structuredp. 11
A Note on Languagep. 12
Part IBefore Foreplay
Chapter 1What Is an EMO?p. 14
Consciousness and Orgasmp. 15
Viewpoints, Responsibility, and Orgasmp. 19
Sensuality Out of Sexualityp. 24
Chapter 2Prejudice and Pain: How Our Ideas Affect Our Orgasmsp. 27
Prejudicep. 28
Pain on a Pedestalp. 30
Chapter 3Cause and Effectp. 34
Part IIForeplay
Chapter 4Know Yourself and Your Partnerp. 42
Fear and Approvalp. 44
Anger or Happiness?p. 45
When Do I Get My Turn?p. 51
Chapter 5Know Your Bodyp. 56
Clitorologyp. 57
From G to Shining Cp. 60
More Alike than You Think Similarities Between the Sexesp. 63
Sensuality Exercisesp. 64
Chapter 6The Art of Seductionp. 75
Seduction for Pleasurep. 76
The Settingp. 82
Kissingp. 83
Part IIIPlay
Chapter 7How Do You Do?p. 88
Doing a Womanp. 90
Doing a Manp. 104
Peakingp. 111
Signs of Orgasmp. 116
Bringing Your Partner Downp. 117
Chapter 8Training and Communicationp. 120
Training from Causep. 121
Training from Effectp. 124
What to Sayp. 126
Getting Donep. 130
Doing a Novicep. 134
Chapter 9Doing It Againp. 140
Fun Firstp. 141
Positionsp. 143
Playfulnessp. 146
Dancing on the Clitorisp. 148
Power Gamesp. 149
Fantasyp. 151
Beggingp. 154
Advanced Doingp. 155
Coming Togetherp. 158
Part IVComing Down
Chapter 10Heat Cyclesp. 164
The Menstrual Cyclep. 165
Annual Heat Cyclep. 167
Situational Heatp. 169
Volitional Heatp. 169
Menopausep. 170
Sex Dealersp. 172
Bonobos and Other Monkey Businessp. 174
Chapter 11Conscious Choicesp. 177
White Knight Syndromep. 178
Jealousyp. 180
Chapter 12Safer Sexp. 183
HIV and AIDSp. 184
Other Sexually Transmitted Infectionsp. 185
Latexp. 185
Genital Injuryp. 186
Getting Olderp. 187
Conclusionp. 189
You Can't Avoid Badp. 190
Buy a Ticketp. 190
Spontaneous Deliberate Pleasurep. 191
Go for It!p. 191
Appendix AAnswers to Commonly Asked Questionsp. 193
Appendix BA Day of Pleasure and Attentionp. 208
"Love Is Like"p. 216
Notesp. 218
Bibliographyp. 221
Indexp. 224